Our Anti Scam Policy

The internet offers many new opportunities which are also misused by a small minority. Every country in the world has dishonest individuals and criminals. In order to avoid problems it is better to be overly cautious! The following guidelines shall help to better understand the honesty of corresponding partners.
It is our aim to provide a comfortable, convenient and safe environment where people can meet people. The good news is, that there are thousands of sincere honest people out there who dream to love and be loved and to find the right partner.

Anti Scam policy

We make every effort to keep our Website free of Scammers. We fight against scams and do our best to protect our client against abuse.

  • We only allow profiles of real people to be posted.
  • We do not allow requests for money to be communicated through our service.
  • We do not allow commercial services to promote their business.
  • No agencies are allowed to post profiles of their customers on our Website and ask our users to pay for the correspondence.

We provide a "Report Abuse" feature visible on every profile and we ask our members to report any abuse or suspiciously.

How to report a scam

There are two ways you can report a scam:
1) Open the profile of the person you want to report as a scammer. Click on the "Report Abuse" button. Fill the Online Form and give your report.

2) Send us your report via our contact form.

If you report a scam, please include your name and your e-mail address. Provide us with the profile number of the person you report and the information proving the scamming intention or the scam. If you have received photos from a scammer, please send these too.

We prove every abuse report and delete every membership that violates our rules.
Every scammer risks that his case will be brought to trial!

How to avoid becoming a scam victim

  • NEVER send money to anyone who you met online, but have not yet met in person
  • Be aware of scammers! Common scams include i.e. requests for money for payments for large items such as medical expenses, visa fees, plane tickets, legal fees, marriage annulment fees and other.
  • NEVER send cash for someone from another country to purchase a plane ticket, pay for visa or legal costs or anything else associated with a visit to you. If you feel you must assist this person then always buy the ticket yourself on the behalf of the visitor and check the ticket can be refunded in case you need to cancel it.
  • Some people in developing countries may ask for small supports to pay for internet access or phone costs to be able to communicating with you. Our advise is never sending money to anyone who you have never met in person.
  • If you ever consider assisting someone in another country to visit you then first check the honesty and why someone wants to get a visa. Check the visa eligibility with your Immigration department.
  • Likewise, if you have to pay for visa fees, cancellation fees or other expenses always verifying the invoice and that the organization issuing the invoice is genuine.

Common types of scams

Money scam

The scammer tries to receive money from unconscious people. The lady will inform the man about the money she needs either to pay for rent or medical cost or costs to visit the man like for the visa, travelling to the embassy etc. and how the man shall transfer it.

Travel scam

These ladies like to travel from one country to another country, to spend three months with one man then one or two months with another man. The man believes that she is true in her expression for a true relationship, but all she is really looking for, is a new country and new experience, lots of shopping and lots of fun and someone who pays all costs. She will make the man belief that she needs this time trying to find out of you are the one she is looking for. At the end of her trip she will disappear or inform you that she is not ready for a commitment.

Immigration scam

This type is common if a lady plans an Immigration scam. She wants to use the man getting a visa or get married just for getting the Immigration. She might predict loving the man but she will take the next chance to divorce.

Nigeria Scam

The so called Nigeria Scams are always using the same deception or similar: You receive a mail or a reply from someone (from Africa/Nigeria/Abidjan etc.) who claims to have millions of dollars from a dead husband or father or brother and wants you to help get the money out of a country. The money you are ask to invest to make the transfer possible, seems to be very little compared with the commission promised. Everything sounds too good to be true! But be alarmed, this is a trick commonly known as the Nigeria scam!

What or who can be behind a scam

Money scam and Nigeria scam

The scammer behind the scam might even not be a lady. The photos are stolen of a model or taken from a female that does not know how the photos are used. In other cases the photos may be true and the lady is involved herself. The surname and the physical address are usually are a fake. The voice behind a phone number is an accomplice.

Travel scam and Immigration scam

The lady including her name and address is real: She looks beautiful but her intentions are far from true and sincere.

How to detect a scam

There are different scam patterns but there are similarities that are easy to discover if you aware about it. The following helps to detect money scams.

What you experience

Often not you initiated the contact; you received a letter from a lovely lady who is interested in you. The description of the partner she is looking for is very unspecific so that it will fit anybody. Any specification like age, race etc. don't matter.

Early signs

The girl has a model look, her data are too perfect, she doesn't care if aman is over 30 years older than her. She tells that she is not interested in material things. Things move very fast, and she starts to express her love with you within 1-5 letters. She sends you sweet and extra loving letters from a very early stage of the conversation writing a lot about trust, honesty and sincerity.

She attempts to get you into loving conversation and asks for money or gifts in few letters afterwards. Whether you send her money, or refuse to do it – she will disappear from the scene after getting your money or after your refusal to send it.

Further signs

Very soon she informs you that her financial situation is very bad and that how little she earns even though you never asked about it.

In another case she in unemployed and is looking for a job. She lives alone and needs money to pay the rent. She will pay the money back as soon as she starts working.

She sends the phone number of her landlord (-lady) and the name and ask you to call to prove that her situation is true. But beware; the voice behind the phone number is an accomplice.

In one of the first letters you will receive the information that her family needs help. Her mom or dad is sick and she needs taking care of them. She will not ask for money directly, but will put you in a situation where you feel forced doing it or she will not consider you as the right and reliable partner.
In connection with any request for money, she will tell you about Western Union or another specific way to use for the money transfer.

As soon as the money has been received, most of scammers disappear; some stay in contact, hoping to get more.

How you can detect someone is not honest?

Ask her specific questions. Be aware if she does not answer your particular questions.

  • Be aware if she shows no interest in a conversation about her or your personal life, personality, family etc.
  • Be aware, if she does not remember what you have written.
  • Be aware, if she sends the same letter to you twice or if she repeats / forgets what she has written to you already.
  • Be aware, if she does not relate to the content of your letters at all.
  • Be aware, if the expression of her letter is changing (might be written by accomplices).

Tell her that you will come to visit her. She will let you know that she is very glad but wants to visit your first. She will inform you about the money she needs for the visa, travelling to the embassy etc. and how to transfer it.

Tell her that you want invite her to come to visit you. In her reply she is very happy about it and will inform about the cost for visa, medical insurance, tickets immediately and how to transfer it.

Have a look at the Scammer Black List

Anyone who tries to scam our clients is scamming us. We ask our clients to report every scam immediately! We fight against scams and do our best to protect our client against abuse. Every scammer risks to be brought to trial!

We hope that the above advice will help you to enjoy your time at our site and help you to communicate effectively and safely with other members at our site. If you have any further questions, please do not hesitate to contact us, we will be glad to help.

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